I’ve had some trouble with some people who don’t want to date others.
Jesus said, “To him that hath, shall be given.”
If you have a job, it’s easier to get a job.
If you have another woman friend or another man friend, it’s easier to get your husband, lover, girlfriend or wife back.
I had a Baptist preacher into my office a few months ago, and his wife wouldn’t talk to him at all about anything serious.
He said she wouldn’t talk to him about getting back together. No, no, no.
So I tried to get him to date other women.
He wouldn’t do it.
So I said, “It’s okay. I didn’t say I’d do this miracle if you didn’t follow my ideas. It’s perfectly okay with me. It’s not my tail in the crack.”
“Okay, I don’t need you to be happy. I don’t need you to get her back. I slightly prefer that, but if you don’t want to, it’s perfectly okay.”
I said, “Jesus said in the Sermon on the Mount, “For the meek shall inherit the Earth.”
Meek? What’s that?
Open-minded.
Those who will let reality talk to them. You’re not letting reality talk to you.
I finally got through his closed mind, and he started dating another woman. Immediately, his wife started pursuing him.
Jesus said, “To him that hath, shall be given.”
If you sit around “I don’t have, I don’t have,” that “she doesn’t love me enough or he doesn’t love me enough and I’m losing him,” and whine, whine, whine, there’s no way that your relationship is going to improve.
You’ve got to take on the responsibility of making yourself at least act happy and pretend happiness, even if you don’t feel it.
Now this is what world-class athletes are being taught by their psychologists. They’re being taught if you lose a point, instantly act confident.
Act like it didn’t happen.
Act confident.
Act happy.
Act energetic.
Act positive, whether you feel like it or not. Take care of your feelings later on, but not during the game. Not during the game! During the game, you put on a strong front.
People tend to believe that, “She’ll think that I don’t care if I don’t communicate that I need her or him.”
Well, is telling her that you care, is it working?
Of course not.
Does it work? Does it work? Does it work?
Stop what doesn’t work. Try something that has a chance of working.
I enjoy a TV show called The Commish. The Commissioner, at the end of one show, is putting his arm around his son of about 15 years old, I guess, and saying, “Son, I was told when I was younger that there are three kinds of people. One kind is the dumb ones who don’t learn. The smart ones who learn from their own mistakes. Very smart ones. But then there are the wise ones, the ones who learn from other people’s mistakes.”
When you’ve already made enough mistakes on your own, I’m telling you that other people have done the same kind of mistakes – the mistake of saying, “But I need you and I love you" – pressure, pressure, pressure. And it doesn’t work for them, either.
It wouldn’t work for Jesus Christ.
In fact, in my study of scriptures, Jesus did not pursue anybody. He said in two different gospels, “I’ve not come to save the righteous. I’ve not come to call the righteous to repentance, but sinners.”
Why not the righteous?
They don’t need salvation?
Why, they need it worse. They need it worse. They’re less healthy. They’re more lonely. These snobs, these insecure, arrogant, lonely people, they need salvation worse.
In another place, Jesus says, “There are none so blind as those who will not see.” In other words, I’m not going to waste my time with those that are stubborn, as long as they’re stubborn. If there was a rumor that a town that they were approaching was disinclined to believe, they’d go around that town.
Jesus and his disciples would go around that town, when they had a close-minded attitude.
He wasn’t going to stupidly beat his head against a brick wall, see?
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